If you need to get out of an uncomfortable or scary situation, here are some things that you can try:
- Remember that being in this situation is not your fault. You did not do anything wrong, it is the person who is making you uncomfortable that is to blame.
- Make your limits known. If your partner is pushing those limits, say "NO" as clearly as possible. You have the right to leave or stop a sexual encounter at any point.
- Be true to yourself. Don't feel obligated to do anything you don't want to do. "I don't want to" is always a good enough reason. Do what feels right to you and what you are comfortable with.
- Have a code word with your friends or family so that if you don't feel comfortable, you can call them and communicate your discomfort without the other person knowing. Your friends or family can then come to get your or make up an excuse for you to leave.
- Lie. If you don't want to hurt the other person's feelings, it is better to lie and make up a reason to leave than to stay and be uncomfortable, scared, or worse.
- Try to think of an escape route. How would you try to get out of the room? Where are the doors? Windows? Are there people around who might be able to help you? Is there an emergency phone nearby?
- Find someone nearby and ask for help. Ask another person at the part or someone walking by, or text a friend to help you leave the situation.
- If you and/or the other person has been drinking, you can say that you would rather wait until you both have your full judgment before doing anything you may regret later.